When Mike and I found out we had lost the baby our parents were the first to be called. Mike's parents were closer so they headed down for a couple of days - and just having them here was good for both Mike and I. (Susy and Tommy, I know we've told you thank you already but thank you again for all you did for us. And for being here with us through that time.) Allison was also a HUGE help during that - bringing supper, watching Bella ALOT, cooking, just being here, taking long walks. Then my mom called when everyone left. She told me the day we found out she would come straight over (after an 8 hour drive) and stay as long as we needed. I knew we would be ok for a while with Mike's parents and Allison so I initially told her no. I thought I would be ok. Then everyone left. And it was quiet. And we were sad. And mom called again. She asked the same question "Do you want me to come? I'll come right now." This I answered while trying to hide my crying and I said "Mom, I just don't think I can make a decision, any decision, right now". To this she answered "Ok i'm coming". To which I answered rather promptly "Ok". So, 8 hours later my mom was here. And it certainly was so nice. I don't think we talked much about losing the baby. But just having family here to "understand" meant the world to us. Mike and I were also able to go camping which did our hearts good! You can read about that here.
So, sometimes girls just need their moms. We need our moms to just say "i'm coming" and for us to say "ok". Even at 29 years old with a family and a mortgage and a job this stands true. Mom, thanks so much for coming and making the decision for me. Your presence is what I needed.
And what trip from my mom would be complete without some great (and lots) pictures! Enjoy.
I love this picture of Brad and Allison. Brad was rubbing Bella's shoulder and she "melted" when he would do that. It was hysterical! She is just like her daddy in liking getting massages!



















4 comments:
"So, sometimes girls just need their moms. We need our moms to just say "i'm coming" and for us to say "ok"."
This is so, so true. A few days before Hendrix was born, I started having unexplained anxiety attacks and had a strikingly similar phone conversation with my mom. She asked me if she should come, I told her I didn't know...I couldn't make decisions at that point. So she came and it's exactly what I needed.
I'm so sorry that you've had to walk this road, but I praise God that he's given you such a strong family to hold you and Mike up through it all.
The picture of Bella pointing to her nose reminds me of a picture of you that we saw at your grandmother's house. So sweet.
Love this. Somethin' bout Mom! Almost makes me tear up just thinkin about it--cause they just know when we need 'em. My mom better outlive me...She has to! :)
I love the pic of Bella pointing to her nose...it has a sort of "vintage" look. Bella, you are just so cute! Keep making your mama laugh--it's important!
well I wasn't ready for the waterworks this morning! heavens, you think you are moving past things and then simple words remind you of how deep that pain goes. on to more important things:
I want to give bella a huge hug! look at her curls and sweet smile and big personality! she is so incredibly precious.
love you
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